I was stern with someone last week. My discernment was laced with condemnation when it became a confront to what I’d noticed, what I’d found wrong.
Seconds ago, I texted an apology.
I pray it’s received, three days late, after all.
My work role requires confronting some days, and some days are hard. When work coincides with loss of a pet, worry over doctors appointments, and lingering concern over good things for grown children.
So, the balanced scales of the helper in the helping profession tilted heavy towards chastise, not guide.
I acknowledged it, was attentive to what the heart knows and the mind refuses to hide.
This morning, I read a writer’s truth that had the balance I need, just enough spot on conviction from God’s word to be sure it’s for me and then a tone of encouragement, a tone of “okay, now you know, do better”.
And then, I opened my Bible to read the little Book of Titus that inspired her reminder to me of how others should see me live.
But first, my Psalm for today, the 51st.
Have mercy on me, O God, according to your steadfast love; according to your abundant mercy blot out my transgressions. Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity, and cleanse me from my sin! For I know my transgressions, and my sin is ever before me.
Restore to me the joy of your salvation, and uphold me with a willing spirit.
Psalms 51:12 ESV
And then, quietly pencilled my truth, my “if I’m honest” revelation…
If I were a speaker, a teacher, a preacher, I’d want to be a balanced presenter.
I’d want to encourage in a way that surely gives hope for those not fully and consistently living their potential as God sees, knows, and filled them with, their promise and purpose.
I’d want my instruction to be because of my own knowing, not my curt examination and self-righteous critique of another.
If I were a teacher, a preacher, a speaker
I’d long that my words be my brave and possibly shocking truth, not some occasional and wobbly walk, falling to waysides with regularity.
If I were a teacher, I’d hope I’d include a talk on how this meander in our walk is a part of our journey; yet, not the map God has designed and that that’s why He is merciful and patient
and clear in His giving of directions.
If I were a preacher, a teacher, a speaker or advisor
On many days it’d be best that I’m wordless, my words depending on my ways, not His will, His way.
It’d be best I keep quiet.
Because on those days, I am prone to judgement, frustration and feel my efforts are futile.
On those days, those mornings like this morning.
Oh, it’s so very good to be made right, to listen, to apologize, to examine my heart and invite, simply invite the clean slate of new day made new with my repentance.
Reconciliation, that’s it, morning is sometimes simply reconciling the day, the week, the moments of before.
“The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise.”
Psalms 51:17 ESV
Profit and loss-like, losing the excess of self and gaining God through His holy deposits into my soul.
Balanced to begin again.
Teachable, more and teacher less
and hopefully differently.