On the morning of my birthday, I lost a treasured gift. A trinket, a charm my hand loved to seek out to be sure still there or to cling not so tightly to, my thumb and index finger, for secret security.
It was early and I was dressing to be with a crowd of women who were hopeful writers, speakers, famous and not famous, wise and seeking wisdom. I had thought to go fancy, bright colors and bold statement jewelry, then settled on a crisp white top with navy stripes, jeans, favorite worn leather sandals and blue grey beads that landed just right. Simple earrings, favorite bracelet, watch and birthstone ring. I decided to be me and the morning was going pretty good. It was good, a good hair day, feeling my best me.
One more thing though, I was hesitant over wearing it, would it be just the right touch? Was it necessary to offset the subtle sparkle of bead and would it send the right message, give the right image?
My fingers reached for the tiny hook that opens the clasp, the thick rope chain that has always kept it safe.
Seconds between thinking, of course you wear it, people will notice and then…No, you shouldn’t, you shouldn’t act as if your day depends on what you wear or whether you’re someone to be seen and especially righteous by the wearing of your tiny gold cross.
Showy, Lisa Anne, that’s showy, that’s seeking notice.
Another second was all that passed and I convinced myself that’s silly, wear the necklace, no shame in your game, let it shine!
But, on the morning of my birthday,
I lost my cross.
It slipped from my hand and the delicate charm I was washing to make shine fell quickly into the drain of the hotel sink.
Well then, there you go, I thought. I tried to pull the drain from the sink, wedged the end of my toothbrush in and then decided it was okay.
I let it go.
No time to worry, no time to panic. Only time to carry on knowing what I needed to know.
I’d be fine without my cross resting on my chest.
No, I’d be better.
I’d be less showy, less fan girl of the authors hoping they notice me.
I’d be more quiet background and less front row.
I’d be able to see them, hear them, not be heard and not to be seen.
I’d be there to soak in what was poured out, not to be dying of thirst and hoping some special soul might notice and offer me a cool drink from their famously special cup.
A drink of attention, acclaim, of admiration of me and my appearance.
I’d be there to be changed.
And I was.
Two hours in, my shirt’s all wrinkled and my lipstick has faded. My hair is puffy on one side and flat on the other. I’m next to a pretty young woman. We’re facing the mirrors and she smiles as I smile and say, “humidity hair”.
Two or three others agree. After lunch with time before the next session, I join a group clustered and we begin to talk and we ask questions that seem so very much the same and we smile and we answer, we laugh and we agree. We’ve learned so much more than we expected today but exactly what we prayed we would.
It’s all of us that matter, our stories of Jesus, not a one the same as the other.
Our messages are meant to be written and gradual or sudden nudges for others to know more. To know more of our story before and even more of it now. We’re stewards or our stories, not proud owners and most of all not fancy paraders for our glory or our lingering disdain.
We are bearers of light; yet, not the light.
I am closer and closer to no longer fretting over what I lost or perceived as a loss. Closer to forgetting my need to remember, to hold on to, to believe I must appear to be so or just so.
The hotel called to say they’d found my cross. I asked them to mail it and told them I appreciated it so, it was from my husband and special to me because of it being a long ago birthday gift.
I drove right past the hotel as I headed home from the conference. I thought to exit but decided instead to go on.
Decided to continue on back towards home, to arrive at the place where it matters no more what I left behind, only what I’ve come to know now.
What I lost mattering not, only what I’ve found and continue to find through Him.
I once was lost. Now I’m found. Was blind but now I’m (beginning) to see.
On the day I turned 58 I lost my cross, had to let go and leave it behind.
But, I’m pretty sure I found my message. Yes, I believe I found my song.
Linking up with Mary Geisen and others at Tell His Story. Yes, we’re just a blip on God’s radar, we’re small in this great big world. Still, we matter.